Rabbi Prof. Daniel Sperberโs Darka shel Halakha
by Aryeh A. Frimer
Rabbi Prof. Aryeh A. Frimer is the Ethel and David Resnick Professor of Active Oxygen Chemistry at Bar Ilan University. He has lectured and published widely on various aspects of โWomen and Halakha.โ
Among his many articles, Rabbi Frimer is the author of โWomen and Minyan,โ Tradition, 23:4 (Summer 1988): 54-77, available online here; โWomenโs โMegillaโ Reading,โ in Ora Wiskind Elper, ed., Traditions and Celebrations for the Bat Mitzvah (Urim Publications: Jerusalem, 2003), 281-304, available online here (PDF); โGuarding the Treasure: A Review of Tamar Ross, Expanding the Palace of Torah: Orthodoxy and Feminism,โ BDD - Journal of Torah and Scholarship 18 (April 2007): 67-106 (English), available online here (PDF); โFeminist Innovations in Orthodoxy Today: Is Everything in Halakha - Halakhic?โ JOFA Journal 5:2 (Summer 2004/Tammuz 5764): 3-5, available here (PDF).
Over a three year period, from 5758-5760 (Fall 1997-Summer 2000), Rabbi Frimer delivered in-depth high-level shiurim on "Women and Halakha" to the Women of Rehovot at the Tiferet Moshe Synagogue โ Rabbi Jacob Berman Community Center. The basic sourcebook for these lectures was R. Elyakim Getsel Ellinson, haIsha ve-haMitsvot โ Vol. I: Bein Isha leYotsra, and this series of classes were regularly recorded as MP3 files, and the source materials, handouts and lecture notes were converted into PDF files and these files are now available here.
Aryeh A. Frimer and Dov I. Frimer are the co-authors of "Women's Prayer Services - Theory and Practice," Tradition 32:2 (Winter 1998): 5-118, available online here (PDF); and of the forthcoming โWomen, Kriโat haTorah and Aliyyot.โ
This is his first contribution to the Seforim blog.
Allow me to begin my review of Rabbi Prof. Daniel Sperberโs new volume Darka shel Halakha, with a few words of introduction.[1] I have the greatest respect for Prof. Sperber both as a scholar par excellence and as a human being. Over the almost 35 years I have been at Bar-Ilan University, we have developed a warm friendship and mutual respect. He writes clearly and beautifully, with great knowledge, sensitivity and depth โ and his book Darka shel Halakha is no exception. Nevertheless, I am forced to disagree with his analysis and conclusions. I strongly believe that we have to be sensitive to womenโs spiritual needs or as Hazal say: ืืขืฉืืช ื ืืช ืจืื ืื ืฉืื (Sifra, Parsheta 2; Hagiga 16b). But at the same time, we have to be honest about what the halakha clearly states โ so that, at the same time, we will not be guilty of ืืืืื ืืงืืงืืช ืืช ืืฉืืจื.
The question of women receiving aliyyot, which lies at the center of Darka shel Halakha, is briefly discussed in a baraita cited in the Talmud Megilla (23a) which reads (Source 1):
(1) ืชืืืื ืืืื ืืกืืช ืืืืื ืืฃ ืื ืขืืื ื
ืชื ื ืจืื ื: ืืื ืขืืืื ืืื ืื ืฉืืขื, ืืืคืืื ืงืื ืืืคืืื ืืฉื. ืืื ืืืจื ืืืืื: ืืฉื ืื ืชืงืจื ืืชืืจื, ืืคื ื ืืืื ืฆืืืจ.
Despite the above negative ruling of the Talmud and, in its wake, of all subsequent codifiers,[2] within the last decade, there have been two major attempts to reopen this issue. One was penned by R. Mendel Shapiro[3] who argues that kevod ha-tsibbur is a social concept โ and a womanโs general standing in society was lower than menโs. Nowadays when this is no longer true, a community can be mohel on its kavod โ voluntarily set aside its honor. He errs, however, since the vast majority of rishonim and aharonim disagree with his analysis. Kevod ha-tsibbur has nothing to do with social standing. The vast majority of posekim maintain that kevod ha-tsibbur stems from womenโs lack of obligation in keriโat haTorah, and expresses itself either in terms of tsniut or zilzul ha-mitsvah. The Tsniut School argues that women should not be at the center of communal ritual unnecessarily โ and this is particularly true by keriโat haTorah, from which they are freed. The second school maintains that there is an issue of zilzul ha-mitsva in that the men who are duty-bound should fulfill the mitsva that is incumbent upon them โ and not delegate it to those who are not obligated.[4]
The second attempt is that of R. Prof. Daniel Sperber,[5] in Darka shel Halakha, and I would like to focus on two major issues.
Kevod haTsibbur: Instruction or Recommendation?
Firstly, R. Sperber has suggested that the phrase in Megilla 23a โHowever, the Rabbis declared: a woman should not read from the Torah โ because of kevod ha-tsibburโ describes what Hazal believed to be the preferred or recommended mode of conduct, the ideal way of performing keriโat haTorah.
Indeed, ke-darko ba-kodesh, Prof. Sperber surveys all the places where it states ืืื ืืืจื ืืืืื and shows that some cases are merely expressions of the ideal, while others refer to things that are actually assur. Yet, he concludes [Note 19, p. 21] that that in the case of womenโs aliyyot: "ืื ื ืจืื ืฉืืืืืจ ... ืืชืงื ืช ืื"ื ืืื ืฉืืื ื ืจืืื"
This position is very problematic, particularly in this case of womenโs aliyyot which is one of kevod ha-tsibbur.
(1) Firstly, Meiri, Kiryat Sefer, Maโamar 5, sec. a, writes (Source 2):
(2) ืืืืจื, ืงืจืืช ืกืคืจ, ืืืืจ ืืืืฉื ืืืง ื
ื ืืฆืืช ืืื ...ืฉืืื ืขืืืื ืืื ืื ื' ืืคืืื ืืฉื ืืงืืโฆ, ืืื ืฉืืืื ืืืฉื ืืคื ื ืืืื ืฆืืืจ...
The word โืืืืโ appears many times in the Mishnaic and Tamudic literature and it refers to strongly verbalized objection and public reproof. See for example, Source 3.
(3) ืืกืืช ืคืกืืื ืคืจืง ื ืืฉื ื ื
ืืฉื ื: ืฉืฉื ืืืจืื ืขืฉื ืื ืฉื ืืจืืื ืขื ืฉืืฉื ืืืื ืืืื ืืขื ืฉืืฉื ืื ืืืื ืืืื
ืจืื"ื: ืืื ืืฉืฉื ืืืจืื ืืืื ืืื ืฉืื ืืจืฆืื ืืืืื, ืืื ืฉืขื ืฉืืฉื ืืื - ืืื ืืจืืฉืื ืื - ืื ืืืื ืืืื ืืืืื, ืืฉืืฉื ืืื ืืืื ืืืืจืื ื ืืืื ืืืื.
Clearly, from the Meiriโs perspective, the statement ืืื ืืืจื ืืืืื by womenโs aliyyot is not a simple recommendation.
(2) Secondly, there is a group of rishonim and aharonim who maintain that in the specific case of womenโs aliyyot, women cannot receive aliyyot, even in cases of sheโat ha-dehak or be-diavad. This school includes the Rambam and Semag and many subsequent aharonim (R. Abraham Pinso; R. Matsliโah Mazuz; R. Ben-Zion Lichtman, R. Zalman Nehemiah Goldberg and R. Isaac Zilberstein). For example, Rambam (Sources 4 and 5) writes without any qualification that women may not receive aliyyot:
(4) ืจืื"ื ืืืืืช ืชืคืืื ืื ืฉืืืช ืืคืื ืคืจืง ืื, ืืืื ืื
ืืฉื ืื ืชืงืจื ืืฆืืืืจ ืืคื ื ืืืื ืืฆืืืืจโฆ
(5) ืืจื ืืกืขืื ืื ืจืืงื, ืืขืฉื ืจืืงื ืฉื
ืืจืืื ื ืืชื ืงืืฆืืจ ืืืื ื-"ืืฉื ืื ืชืงืจื ืืคื ื ืืืื ืืฆืืืืจ", ื"ื ื ืืกืจ ืืืืจืโฆ
Semag (Source 6) records that minors may receive aliyyot, but makes no mention of women whatsoever. On the contrary, he maintains (Sources 7 and 8) that women cannot motsi men in megilla, even be-di-avad, just as they canโt receive aliyyot.
(6) ืืจื ืืฉื ืื ืืขืงื ืืงืืฆื, ืกืคืจ ืืฆืืืช ืืืื (ืกื"ื), ืขืฉืื ืกืืื ืื
ืืื [ืื] ืืงืืจืืื, ืืฉืืช ืืฉืืจืืช ืฉืืขื .. ืืงืื ืืืืืข ืืงืจืืช ืืืืืข ืืื ืืืจืืื ืขืืื ืืฉืืขื ืืื ืืื.
(7) ืกืคืจ ืืฆืืืช ืืืื โ ืืฆืืืช ืืืจืื ื, ืืืืืช ืืืืื
โฆืืืฃ ืขื ืื ืื ืฉืื ืืืืืืช ืืืงืจื ืืืืื ืืื ื ืืืฆืืืืช ืืช ืืืืจืื. ืืื ืชืฉืืื ื ื ืจ ืื ืืื ืืืืจืื ื ืืคืจืง ืืื ืืืืืงืื (ืฉืืช ืื, ื) ืืืฉื ืืืืงืช ืืฉืืข ืืฃ ืืืืฆืื ืืืืฉ. ืืฉืื ื ืืงืจื ืืืืื ืฉืืื ืืื ืงืจืืืช ืืชืืจื ืืื ืืื ื ืืืฆืืื ืืช ืืืืฉ.
(8) ืืื ืืืจืื ืกืืื ืชืจืคื ืก"ืง ื
"ืื"ื ืฉืื ืฉืื ืืื ื ืืืฆืืืืช ืืช ืืื ืฉืื "
ืืื ื ืืืฆืืืืช - ืื"ื ืื ืจืืช ืื ืืื ืืฉืื ื ืืืืื ืืืื ืืื ืงืจืืืช ืืชืืจื (ืกื"ื) ืคื' ืืคืกืืื ืืคื ื ืืืื ืืฆืืืจ ืืืื ืืคื' ืืืืื ืืื ืืืฆืืื ืืื ืคืืื (ืจื"ื)
Clearly, according to these authorities, the statement ืืื ืืืจื ืืืืื is not a simple recommendation.
(3) There is another very large group of posekim (perhaps the majority) led by the R. Yoel Sirkis (Baโh; Sources 9 and 10) who maintain that one cannot be mohel on kevod ha-tsibbur โ particularly in the case of womenโs aliyyot. However, bi-sheโat ha-dehak โ where there is no alternative or no one else eligible - a woman can read, lest keriโat haTorah be cancelled. It is to such cases that the Gemara in Megilla was referring.
(9) ืืจื ืืืื ืกืืจืงืืก, ืืืช ืืืฉ (ื"ื) ืืืจ ืื"ื ืกืืื ื "ื ื"ื "ืืืื ืืื ืื"
โฆืืื ืืืืจ ืคืฉืื, ืืืื ืฉืื ืชืงื ื ืืืืื ืืืฉืฉื ืืืืื ืฆืืืืจ, ืืื ืืื ืืฆืืืืจ ืืืืื.
(10) ืืืช ืืืฉ, ืืืจ ืืืจื ืืืื ืกืืื ืงื"ื
... ืื ืฉืชืืงื ื ืืืืื .. ืืฉืื ืืืื ืืฆืืืืจ ืื ืชืงื ื ืืชืืืื ืืื ืืืื ืฉืืคืฉืจ
For example, in a case of a city with only kohanim cited by Rabbi Sperber himself, Maharam mi-Rothenburg (Source 11) permits women to receive the third through seventh aliya. Otherwise the Torah reading would not occur, for the lineage of the kohanim would be challenged were they to receive the remaining aliyyot. In the language of the Maharam:
(11) ืฉื"ืช ืืืจ"ื ืืจืืื ืืจื ืืืง ื (ืืคืืก ืคืจืื) ืกืืื ืงื
...ืืขืืจ ืฉืืืื ืืื ืื ืืืื ืื [ืืคื'] ืืฉืจืื ืืื ื ืจืื ืื ืืืื ืงืืจื ืคืขืืืื ืืฉืื ืืงืจืื ื ืฉืื ืืืื ืืฉืืืื' ืืื ืื ื' ืืคื' ืขืื ืืฉืคืื ืืงืื (ืืืืื ื"ื ืข"ื). ืื ืื ืืืกืืง ืขืื ืืื ืืืจื ืืืื' ืื ืชืงืจื ืืฉื ืืชืืจื ืืคื ื ืืืื ืืฆืืืจ, ืืืื ืืื ืืคืฉืจ ืืืื ืืืื ืืฆืืืจ ืืคื ื ืคืื ืืื ืื ืืงืืจืืื ืฉืื ืืืืจื ืื ื ืืจืืฉืืช.
Maharam mi-Rothenburg was only willing to permit bi-sheโat ha-dehak. This certainly doesnโt sound like a recommendation ืืืืฆื. Rather it is permission given only bi-sheโat ha-dehak.
It would seem to me that in Darka shel Halakha there is a blurring of the difference between le-khathila and be-di-avad. For example, Hazal say that one should not use a milchig spoon ืฉืืื ื ืื ืืืื (not used in last 24 hours) to stir hot chicken soup. Similarly, Hazal indicate that one shouldnโt eat out of utensils that havenโt been immersed in a mikva. In both cases, be-di-avad, the food remains perfectly kosher. Hazalโs ruling in both these cases is not a recommendation - but rather a clear directive how one is required to act; under normative conditions, it is assur to act otherwise. This is also true regarding womenโs aliyyot โ Hazal forbade it le-khathila, even though be-di-avad or bi-sheโat ha-dehak the aliyya may be valid.
Now it should be appreciated that from Prof. Sperberโs perspective it is important that ืืื ืืืจื ืืืืื be only a ืืืืฆื. Prof. Sperber wants to maintain that there really is no โdown sideโ to women getting aliyyot. However, to my mind, he errs โ kevod ha-tsibbur is a takana le-khathila, not a recommendation.
In this regard, I would also like to briefly mention one further crucial point, relevant to both the papers of R. Mendel Shapiro and R. Daniel Sperber โ but which we will not be able to develop fully here at the Seforim blog.[6] When Hazal talked about women getting aliyyot, they were referring to a system in which the oleh made the berakhot and read aloud - for himself and the community. However, nowadays, the job of the oleh is bifurcated: the oleh makes the berakhot and baโal korei reads aloud. This raises a fundamental question: how can one person make berakhot, while another does the maโaseh ha-mitsva. For there not to be a berakha le-vatalah there must be a mechanism to transfer the reading from the baโal korei to the oleh. That mechanism is either shomโeah ke-oneh or shelihut. But both mechanisms require that both the oleh and baโal korei be obligated โ otherwise there is no areivut. Since women are not obligated in keriโat haTorah, they can serve neither as the oleh nor as the baโal korei - me-ikkar ha-din โ because the birkhot haTorah of the oleh will be berakhot levatalah. Note that all this has nothing to do with kevod haTsibbur. The only case in which the issue of kevod haTsibbur begins is in the uncommon case where a woman makes the berakhot and reads for herself.[7] Hence, under a bifurcated system, there is a clear downside in allowing women to read or serve as olot โ a proliferation of berakhot le-vatala!
Does Kevod haBeriyyot Defer Kevod haTsibbur โ
The Rules of Kevod haBeriyyot
Lets now turn to the second issue โ and this is Prof. Sperberโs major hiddush in this book. Briefly, Prof. Sperber notes that there is a concept in halakha called kevod ha-beriyyot which refers to shame or embarrassment (ืืืฉื ืื ืืืืื) which would result from the fulfillment of a religious obligation. The view of the halakha is that kevod ha-beriyyot can defer rabbinic obligations and prohibitions. Hence, Prof. Sperber maintains that if there is a community of women who are offended by their not receiving aliyyot โ because of the rabbinic rule of kevod hatsibbur, then kevod ha-beriyyot should defer kevod ha-tsibbur.
Professor Sperberโs book is devoted to describing the use of kevod ha-beriyyot in the halakhic literature. He is by no means the first to do this and the subject is extensively reviewed and analyzed by Rabbis Rakover,[8] Blidstein,[9] Lichtenstein,[10] Feldman,[11] and many others.[12]
Letโs begin with the Gemara in Berakhot 19b:
(12) ืชืืืื ืืืื ืืกืืช ืืจืืืช ืืฃ ืื ืขืืื ื
(ื) ืืืจ ืจื ืืืืื ืืืจ ืจื: ืืืืฆื ืืืืื ืืืืื ืคืืฉืื ืืคืืื ืืฉืืง, ืืื ืืขืื (ืืฉืื ื"ื) "ืืื ืืืื ืืืื ืชืืื ื ืืืื ืขืฆื ืื ืื ื'" - ืื ืืงืื ืฉืืฉ ืืืื ืืฉื ืืื ืืืืงืื ืืืื ืืจื.
(ื) ืืชืืื: ืงืืจื ืืช ืืืช ืืืืจื, ืืืคื ืืื ืฉืชื ืืจืืื, ืืืช ืืืืจื ืืืืช ืืืื, ืื ืืืืืจื - ืืืื ืขืื ืืืืืจื, ืื ืืืืื - ืืืื ืขืื ืืืืื, ืืฉืื ืืืืื. [ืจืื ืืจืืฉืื ืื ืืืจืกืื: ืืืื ืืืืื, ืื ืขืืื ืืฉืื ืืืืื] ืืืื? ืืืื: ืืื ืืืื ืืืื ืชืืื ื ืื ืื ื'. ืชืจืืื ืจืื ืืื ืืืืช ืืคืจืก ืืจืื ื
(ื)...ืชื ืฉืืข: ืืืื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช ืฉืืืื [ืืช] ืื ืชืขืฉื ืฉืืชืืจื. ืืืืื? ืืืื: ืืื ืืืื ืืืื ืชืืื ื ืืืื ืขืฆื ืื ืื ื'! - ืชืจืืื ืจื ืืจ ืฉืื ืงืืื ืืจื ืืื ื ืืืื (ืืืจืื ื"ื, ืื) ืืื ืชืกืืจ [ืื ืืืืจ ืืฉืจ ืืืืื ืื ืืืื ืืฉืืื[ ...ืื ืืืื ืืจืื ื ืืกืืืื ืื ืขื ืืื ืืื ืชืกืืจ, ืืืฉืื ืืืืื ืฉืจื ืจืื ื.
(ื) ืจืฉ"ื: ืื ืืืื ืืจืื ื ืืื' - ืืืื ืงืืืจ ืืื: ืืืจ ืฉืืื ืืืืจื ืกืืคืจืื ื ืืื ืืคื ื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช, ืืงืจื ืืื ืื ืชืขืฉื - ืืฉืื ืืืชืื ืื ืชืกืืจ, ืืืงื ืงืฉืื ืืื ืืืืจืืืชื ืืื, ืจืื ื ืืืืื ืืืงืจืืืื ืืขืืืจ ืขื ืืืจืืื ืืืื ืืืืื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช.
The upshot of this Gemara is that if one is wearing shaโatnez โ the wearer is obligated to remove it even in the marketplace, despite any possible embarrassment. The Gemara explains that G-dโs honor/dignity takes priority over that of Man. However, if the garment is only rabbinically forbidden, one can wait until they return home to change. The reason is that kevod ha-beriyyot, the honor of the individual, can defer rabbinic prohibitions.
Prof. Sperber adequately shows that kevod ha-beriyyot has always been an important consideration in pesak. However, an in-depth survey of the responsa literature over the past 1000 years makes it clear that it cannot be invoked indiscriminately. Indeed, as the gedolei ha-posekim make apparent, there are clearly defined parameters which Prof. Sperber seems to ignore. Hence, R. Sperberโs application of kevod ha-beriyyot to the issue of womenโs aliyyot is seriously flawed. In this brief presentation, we will discuss nine of the aforementioned principles.
(1) Firstly, kevod ha-tsibbur is merely the kevod ha-beriyyot of the tsibbur.[13] Hence it makes no sense that the honor of the individual should have priority over the honor of a large collection of individuals. Indeed, this is explicitly stated by the 13th century Meiri. [Source 13; Meiri is referring to Source 12ื]
(13) ืืืืจื, ืืืช ืืืืืจื, ืืจืืืช ืืฃ ืื ืขืืื ื:
{ืืฉ ืืืจืกืื ืื ืืืืืื ืืืื ืขืื. ืืืื ืืืืจืื ื ืจืืื} ืฉืืื ืืืื ืจืืื ื ืืื ืืคื ื ืืืื ืื ืืืืืื, [ืืื ืืื] ืืืื ืจืืชื...ืืืฃ ืืชืืืื ืืืขืจื...
(2) Secondly, The Meiri (Source 14) also emphatically states:
(14) ืืืืจื, ืืืช ืืืืืจื, ืืจืืืช ืืฃ ืื ืขืืื ื:
...ืฉืื ืืืจื ืชืืจื ืืื ืืืจืื ืืงืืื ืขืฆืื...
Giving women aliyyot by overriding kevod ha-tsibbur with kevod ha-beriyyot would effectively be honoring women by dishonoring the community โ and, hence, cannot be done.
(3) R. Sperberโs suggestion would ask us to uproot completely the rabbinic ban on womenโs aliyyot. However, kevod ha-beriyyot can only temporarily set aside a rabbinic ordinance. As stated in the Jerusalem Talmud (Source 15):
(15) ืชืืืื ืืจืืฉืืื ืืืืื ืค"ื ื"ื, ืื ืข"ื
ืืจื ืฉืืื ืืืื ืืฉืืง ืื ืืฆื ืืืืฉ ืืืืื, ืชืจืื ืืืืจืืื (ืฉื ื ืืืืจืืื ืืืืงืื ืืืืจ): ืื ืืืจ ืืกืืจ; ืืืจื ื (ืืืืจ) ืืืจ ืืืชืจ. ืืื ืืืืจ ืืกืืจ - ืืืจ ืชืืจื; ืืื ืืืืจ ืืืชืจ - ืืืืื ืืืืจ ืจืื ืืขืืจื: ืืืื ืืืื ืืจืืื ืฉืืื ืืืื ืืช ืืืฆืื ืืื ืชืขืฉื ืฉืขื ืืืช.
Many of the commentaries on the Yerushlami and posekim hold that this proviso of shaโah ahat applies to Rabbinic mitsvot as well โ including: Tosafot, Ketubot 103b, end of s.v. โOtoโ; Or Zarua, Hilkhot Erev Shabbat, sec. 6; Penei Moshe; Vilna Gaon; R. David Pardo; Arukh haShulhan (Source 16); and others.
(16) ืขืจืื ืืฉืืืื, ืื"ื ืกืืื ืฉ"ื, ืกืขืืฃ ื:
ืฉืื ื ืืื [ืืืืืื] ืืืื ืืฉืขื ืงืื, ืืืฉืืื ืืืืชื ืืืืื ืื ืืืคืฉืื. ..ืืืคื' ืืืืกืืจ ืืจืื ื ืชืืืื ื "ื ืืืืืืื ืืืืื ืื, ืืืื ืืื ืืข ืืฆื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช
(4) Next, many posekim including R. Yair Hayyim Bachrach, R. Meir Simha of Dvinsk (Source 17), R. Jeroham Perlow, R. Moses Feinstein, R. Chaim Zev Reines indicate that the โdishonorโ that is engendered must result from an act of disgrace - not from refraining to give honor. As Rabbi Meir Simcha of Dvinsk writes:
(17) ืืืจ ืฉืื (ืืจื ืืืืจ ืฉืืื ืืืื ืืืืืื ืกืง) ืืืืืช ืื"ื ืคืจืง ื, ืืืื ื"ื
ืืืื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช...ืื ืืืืงื ืืืืื ืืืืืื ื ืืื ืืืจืืืช, ืืื...ืขื ืื ืฉื ืืืื...ืื ืฉืจื?
Only in cases where kavod is obligatory (e.g., for a King or mourner) is the absence of kavod considered embarrassing, as indicated by R. Isaac Blazer (Source 18),
(18) ืฉื"ืช ืคืจื ืืฆืืง, ื ื (ืืจื ืืฆืืง ืืืืจ)
ืฆืจืื ืืืืจ ืืกืืืจื ืืื ืืืืจื ืืืงืื ืฉืืืืื ืืืืืื ืื ืืขืืจ ืืืื ืืื ืืืื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช, ืืืขืืจ ืืืื ืืื ืืื ืื ืื... ืืขืืื ืืืชืืืืช (ืืฃ ืกื) ืื ืืื ืฉืืื ืืืฉื ืืจืืฉ....
Prof. Yaakov Blidstein discusses burial on Yom Tov sheini shel galuyot, which is permitted because Yom Tov sheni is de-rabbanan, while not burying is kevod ha-beriyyot.[14] However, a long list of posekim will not permit 20 individuals to violate Yom Tov sheni to attend to a burial, when only 10 are required to bury the deceased and the additional 10 would be coming along out of honor. Only the first 10 are permitted.
Similarly, in the case of aliyyot, no act of shame has been performed to all those not called to the Torah (both men and women); they are simply not honored. Kevod ha-beriyyot cannot be activated under such conditions.
R. Daniel Sperber in his book Darka shel Halakha (p. 77, note 104) attempts to challenge this principle - that kevod ha-beriyyot is inapplicable when no act of shame has been performed. He cites the fact that a bride is permitted to wash her face on Yom Kippur (Source 19).
(19) ืืกืืช ืืืื ืคืจืง ื ืืฉื ื ื
ืืฉื ื: ืืื ืืืคืืจืื ืืกืืจ ืืืืืื ืืืฉืชืื ืืืจืืืฆื ืืืกืืื ืืื ืขืืืช ืืกื ืื ืืืชืฉืืืฉ ืืืื ืืืืื ืืืืื ืืจืืฆื ืืช ืคื ืืื ืืืืื ืชื ืขืื ืืช ืืกื ืื ืืืจื ืจืื ืืืืขืืจ ืืืืืื ืืืกืจืื:
ืจืฉื ืืืืื - ืฆืจืืื ื ืื ืขื ืฉืชืืื ืขื ืืขืื, ืืื ืฉืืฉืื ืืื ืืืืคืชื ืืื ืงืจืืื ืืื.
ืจ' ืขืืืืื ืืืจืื ืืจื: ืืืืื - ืฆืจืืื ื ืื ืืื ืืืืื ืขื ืืขืื. ืืื ืฉืืฉืื ืืื ืงืจืืื ืืื:
R. Sperber assumes that the prohibition against washing on Yom Kippur is rabbinic (when many authorities hold it is biblical) and that the permission to wash stems from kevod ha-beriyyot. Based on this, he wants to demonstrate that the shame here results from something that was not done.
This analysis is in error because the leniency for a bride has nothing to do with kevod ha-beriyyot. What was forbidden was rehitsa shel taโanug, but not washing of necessity, e.g., for cleanliness. A bride is permitted to wash her face on Yom Kippur, so that her face would not be displeasing in her new grooms eyes โ and this is considered laving of necessity. As Rashi and Rav write (Source 19 above), a bride requires beauty.
R. Sperber (p. 83) further cites a responsum of R. Isaiah of Trani, Resp. haRid, sec. 21 which permits the lighting of candles in the synagogue on Yom Tov because of โkevod ha-beriyyot.โ R. Sperber attempts to use this example to demonstrate that kevod ha-beriyyot can set aside prohibitions even if it is only to honor those who are attending synagogue.
Unfortunately, he errs in his analysis here as well. Similar teshuvot are found from the Rid, Rosh and Maharam of Rothenburg.[15] And their goal is to show that lighting candles in the synagogue come under the rubric of tsorekh okhel nefesh because they honor people (Rid), the synagogue (Maharam) or the holiday (Rosh). Once it its tsorekh okhel nefesh, it is the tsorekh okhel nefesh which defers the prohibition.
(5) Nearly all authorities โ including, inter alia, R. Naftali Amsterdam (Source 20), R. Elhanan Bunim Wasserman, R. Makiel Tsvi haLevi Tannenbaum, Rav Yitzchak Nissim (Source 21), R. Joseph B. Soloveitchik, R. Elijah Bakshi Doron (Source 22), R. Israel Shepansky - maintain that kevod ha-beriyyot requires an objective standard that affects or is appreciated by all.
(20) ืฉื"ืช ืคืจื ืืฆืืง, ื ื
ืืจื ื ืคืชืื ืืืฉืืจืื: ืื ืื ื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช ืื ื ืืืจ ืจืง ืขื ืืืจ ืฉืืื ืื ืื ืืื ืืื ืืื ืืฉื ืืืื ืืืืื ืืื ืฉืืืื, ืืื ืืช ืืฆืื ืื ืืืื ืขืจืื ืฉืจืื ืื ื ืืืื ืืชืืืืฉืื ืืื. ืืื ืืืืจ ืฉืืืืืื ืืชืืืืก ืจืง ืืืื ืืื ืืคื ืชืืื ืชื, ืืื ืืืฉื ืฉืง ืื ืงืืคื, ืืื ืื ืฉืืื ืืื ืืคืืืจ ืืืขื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช.
(21) ืืจื ืืฆืืง ื ืืกืื, ืชืฉืืื ืืชื ืื, ืืจืืฉืื ืชืฉื"ื (ืื ืืจื ื ืืกืื)
ืืืืืื ืฉืชืื [ืืืช ืืฆืืื] ืืคื ื ืื ืืืืช ืืื ืกืช ืืืชืคืื, ืืื ืื ืืขืืืช ืืชืืจื. ืืืื ืืคืืจืฉืช ืืื ืฉืืื ืืฉื ืงืืจืืช ืืชืืจื ืืฆืืืืจ, ืืืื ืืฉื ืื ืืช ืืืืื ืืคื ืืจืืฉืืช ืฉื ืื ื ืืื.
(22) ืืจื ืืืืื ืืงืฉื ืืืจืื, ืฉื"ืช ืื ืื ืื, ื"ื, ืกืืื ื "ื, ืืืช ื'
...ืืืื ืืืื ืืื ืืื ืฉืืฉ ืืืื ืื ืืืืืื, ืืืืืื ืื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช ืฉืืืืื ืืืื... ืืื ืืื ืคืจืื ืฉืืืืื ืืืื ืืช ืขืฆืื...ืืืืื ืืฉืืงืืืื ืคืจืืืื ืืื ื ืืืื ืืคืืืจ ืืืชื, ืื ืืืืืช ืืืกืืจ ืืจืื ื.
This view explicitly rejects subjective standards - in which what is embarrassing results from the idiosyncrasies or hypersensitivities of an individual or small group. The vast majority of religiously committed women are not offended when they do not receive an aliyya. Indeed, they understand and accept the halakhic given, although some might clearly have preferred it to be otherwise.
More importantly, does it make halakhic sense that if a group of women โ nay, any group, says: โthis Rabbinic halakha offends meโ โ be it mehitsa, tsniโut, kashrut, stam yeynam, many aspects of taharat ha-mishpahah, who counts for a minyan, and who can serve as a hazzan - then we should have a carte blanche to go about abrogating it. Such a position is untenable, if not unthinkable.[16]
(6) Many leading scholars[17] emphasize that, as in the cases of kevod ha-beriyyot discussed in Berakhot 19b and elsewhere, the shame must result from extraneous factors. Thus, removing the kilayyim garment per seโ is not what causes the shame. Rather, it is that one has no other garment underneath and, hence, remains naked. In such cases, kevod ha-beriyyot can be invoked to nullify the rabbinic commandment which leads to the dishonor. However, kevod ha-beroyyot cannot be invoked to nullify a rabbinic commandment, where the shame comes from the very fulfillment of the rabbinic injunction itself.
Take for example one who is invited to dine with his colleagues or clients, would we allow him to avoid embarrassment by eating fruit and vegetables from which terumot and maโasrot (which nowadays is Rabbinic) have not been removed, or by consuming hamets she-avar alav haPesah, or by drinking stam yeynam (wine touched or poured by a non-Jew). Or alternatively, suppose someone is at a meeting and is ashamed to walk out in order to daven Minha. And what about prayers at the airport in between flights. Would we allow him to forgo his rabbinic prayer obligation because of this embarrassment?
The answer is that in those cases where acting according to halakha - be it to not eat terumot and maโasrot, or to not drink stam yeynam, or to fulfill ones prayer obligation โ creates the embarrassment, then kevod ha-beriyyot cannot set aside the Rabbinic prohibition. One should be proud to be fulfilling the halakha. Similarly, kevod ha-beriyyot cannot be invoked to uproot the rabbinic consideration of kevod ha-tsibbur which prevents womenโs aliyyot. This is because the dishonor stems directly from the very fact that women are not given aliyyot in accordance with the rabbinic guidelines.
(7) That the rabbis of the Talmud were sensitive to womenโs spiritual needs is evident from the rabbinic concept of nahat ruโah (spiritual satisfaction), which was invoked in a variety of instances to permit certain special dispensations for women.[18] R. Sperber maintains that this concept is an expression of kevod ha-beriyyot.[19] Yet, despite this admitted sensitivity, Hazal themselves were not concerned about kevod ha-beriyyot when they ruled that, because of kevod ha-tsibbur, women should not le-khathila receive aliyyot. Hence, how can we?
This argument is all the more true according to the explanation of Rashi on the mechanism of kevod ha-beriyyot deferments. Rashi (Source 12ื cited above) explains that in instances of kevod ha-beriyyot the Rabbis โforgo their honor to allow their edict to be violated.โ
(12) ืชืืืื ืืืื ืืกืืช ืืจืืืช ืืฃ ืื ืขืืื ื
..... ืื ืืืื ืืจืื ื ืืกืืืื ืื ืขื ืืื ืืื ืชืกืืจ, ืืืฉืื ืืืืื ืฉืจื ืจืื ื.
(ื) ืจืฉ"ื ืื ืืืื ืืจืื ื ืืื' - ืืืื ืงืืืจ ืืื: ืืืจ ืฉืืื ืืืืจื ืกืืคืจืื ื ืืื ืืคื ื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช, ืืงืจื ืืื ืื ืชืขืฉื - ืืฉืื ืืืชืื ืื ืชืกืืจ, ืืืงื ืงืฉืื ืืื ืืืืจืืืชื ืืื, ืจืื ื ืืืืื ืืืงืจืืืื ืืขืืืจ ืขื ืืืจืืื ืืืื ืืืืื ืืืื ืืืจืืืช.
It is one thing if the clash is unexpected, unanticipated and accidental. But in the case of keriโat haTorah, it was Hazal themselves who knowingly set up the rule of kevod ha-tsibbur which precludes women from aliyyot. Why would we expect them to forgo their honor in such a case?
(8) The Rivash (Resp. Rivash, sec 226) forbade sewing baby clothes during hol ha-moed for a newbornโs circumcision despite the parentsโ desire to dress him properly and festively for the event. One of Rivashโs rationales is that since all understand that new clothes cannot be sewn on hol ha-moed - because Hazal forbade it, kevod ha-beriyyot cannot be invoked to circumvent this rabbinic prohibition. Similarly, one cannot invoke kevod ha-beriyyot to allow women to receive aliyyot, because all understand that this has been synagogue procedure for two millennia and that the Rabbis of the Talmud themselves prohibited it.
(9) Rivash (ibid.) and Havot Yair (sec. 95) and others rule against extending the leniency of kevod ha-beriyyot beyond those instances explicitly discussed by Hazal - honor of the deceased (ืืืื ืืืช), personal hygiene dealing with excrement, undress, and the wholeness of the family unit. New cases may not be comparable in their nature or severity to the original examples. Indeed, as noted by Prof. Blidstein and R. Aharon Lichtenstein,[20] throughout the two millennia of post-Talmudic responsa literature, kevod ha-beriyyot is rarely if ever cited as the sole or even major grounds for overriding a bona fide rabbinic ordinance. It always appears as one of many additional reasons to be lenient (snif le-hakel). This is indeed the case in nearly all the instances cited at length by R. Daniel Sperber in his book Darka shel Halakha.
Whatโs more, in those instances where kevod ha-beriyyot is invoked essentially alone, it is because the matter being deferred is a mere, often unbased, stringency (humra be-alma). For example, the custom in some communities prohibiting menstruants to enter the synagogue โ which Prof. Sperber has returned to repeatedly (Sperber, pp. 74) - is what the posekim call a humra ve-silsul be-alma. Hence, the fact that even in such stringent communities, menstruants visited the sanctuary on the High Holidays - would be a classic example of kevod ha-beriyyot overruling a humra be-alma.
Now Prof. Sperber will respond, that he too would only invoke kevod ha-beriyyot in the case of womenโs aliyyot. After all, there is no real down side - at most we have only violated a recommendation. However, as we have argued above, โaval amru hakhamimโ is not a recommendation by womenโs aliyyot - but a prohibition le-khathilla. Whatโs more, a woman who gets an aliyya without reading for herself or who is only the baโalat keria is responsible for generating berakhot levatala. We have also argued that Prof. Sperber has improperly invoked kevod ha-beriyyot for the case of womenโs aliyyot because he has not taken into consideration the kelalim of the gedolei ha-posekim.
I would like to close with one last point. Despite the fact that we strongly disagree with Prof. Sperberโs conclusion, he after all did w